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Some kids need a good punch in the face!

Some kids really do need a good punch in the face. I’m not talking about a punch from an adult (although if they’re teenagers it might be okay), but from their peers.

I teach martial arts to kids, and the first thing that I teach them is that I’m not teaching them fight, I’m teaching them to defend themselves. There is a fundamental difference between the two. No-one has the right to attack someone else. Everyone has the right to defend themselves, or anyone else, from an attack.

Unfortunately, most schools emphasise non-violence so much that they rob children of the right to defend themselves. Actually, they rob the children who are raised decently, by morally conscientious parents, of the right to defend themselves, because those that aren’t decent really don’t care if they suffer the wrath of their teacher. Henceforth we shall call her Mrs Toosweet.

What this leads to is the nice kids adhering to the rules, and being hurt. What this leads to is the rough kids hurting whomever they like and being ‘punished’ by having Mrs Toosweet verbally admonish them, probably whilst simpering all the time, and worrying about whether his parents would come into the school and kick her head in.

Case in point. My daughter has a small scab from where some little lad – let’s call him Toerag – thought it would be fun to stab her with a freshly sharpened pencil. Very fucking funny. Not. It doesn’t matter that the scab is small. It doesn’t matter that she wasn’t seriously hurt (thank God). It does matter that apparently Toerag had none of the normal social awareness or moral upbringing that told him ‘Stabbing people with sharp pencils is BAD!’

When I asked her whether she hit him back she said no, because she didn’t want to get into trouble.

Now, I’m sorry, but a stern talking to from Mrs Toosweet is going to have little effect on Toerag. He might cry a little at the time, and have to miss out on getting Mr Cuddles, the cuddly bear, during story time, but that’s it.

However, I firmly believe that if my daughter had smacked him in the face, no matter how hard, that consequence would remain in his mind for much longer. At the very least it would make him think twice about trying anything on my daughter. That, for me, is a result.

So, whilst I applaud the educational system for trying to stop violence, I think that they need to teach children the difference between attacking someone and self-defence. Turning the other cheek just means that that cheek will get hit instead, and that all the other Toerags of the world will see that they can get away with pretty much anything they want.

About mattsylvester

Father of two beautiful daughters and married to the beautiful Karen, Matthew has been reading and writing fantasy and science fiction since he first read the Hobbit at the age of 7. Matthew was Features Editor, Technical Consultant and regular columnist for magazines such as ‘Fighters’, ‘Combat’, ‘TKD & Korean Martial Arts’ and ‘Traditional Karate’. These are the four leading martial arts magazines in the United Kingdom. He is also the author of the critically acclaimed 'Practical Taekwondo: Back to the Roots', which has been sold around the world. With regard to his martial arts background he has been studying martial arts since 1991. In 1995 he hosted Professor Rick Clark of the ADK and since then has been studying pressure points and their uses in the martial arts and on the street (initially as a Special Constable and as a Door Supervisor). All of this practical hands-on experience means that he is uniquely placed to write fight scenes that are not only plausible but some of which are based on personal or anecdotal experience. Matthew has had a number of short stories published by Fringe Works, KnightWatch Press, Anderfam Press and Emby Press.


4 thoughts on “Some kids need a good punch in the face!

  1. My brother got called into nursery because his eldest son punched another boy in the face a few times, on closer examination the boy was biting my nephew hard at the time, which is why he punched him. My brother couldn’t really tell his son off as he or indeed myself in the same circumstance would have done the same thing.
    We are far too soft these days and it’s affecting society on many levels, previous generations would simply have drawn the line with some of the things people are allowed to get away with today.


    Posted by Phil Miles (@UK_Hardgeek) | May 9, 2012, 9:11 pm
  2. Totally agree with you. I have two boys the older one often reacting more passively than I would like him to for the reason your daughter said – he didn’t want to get in trouble. Our school K-9 conducted a bully proofing workshop over a two week period that changed the culture in the school. It was fantastic! Hopefully more schools will be able to do the same.


    Posted by Linda Bhatty | May 10, 2012, 12:04 am

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